When to Stop…
No consent? No sex.
Non-consensual sex is illegal. It is rape or sexual assault. Missing out on sex once is much better than being a convicted sex offender. If you need it that badly DIY! Consent is not only about breaking or not breaking the law. Sex should be fun for all involved; making sure that everyone involved is enjoying it makes you a good lover.
Sex is non-consensual if…
- Consent is assumed
- It is forced, pressured, unwanted or violent
- Your partner is too drunk or spaced out to give consent
- Your partner is asleep
- Your partner doesn’t understand what is happening
Always stop if you hear your partner say…
- ‘No’
- ‘I don’t know’
- ‘I’m not sure’
- ‘Not now’
- ‘Get off’
- ‘F*** off’
- ‘Don’t do that’
- ‘Ouch’
- ‘I feel worried’
- ‘Stop’
- ‘Not again’
- ‘Do I have to?’
Know the signs that mean you should stop, including…
- Slurred speech
- Incoherent talking
- Silence
- Stillness
- No eye contact
- Crying
- Frozen or frightened expression
- Shaking
- Confusion
- Resistance
- Flinching
- Passing out
- Sleeping
- Rigid or tense body
Know when to: