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Leah (16) and Jakob (16) have known each other for four years. Since they started dating six months ago, they have kissed and held hands. 

Today, Leah said “I love you” for the first time and Jakob asked her to “prove it” by giving him a blow job. Leah said “no,” so Jakob asked her to give him a hand job instead.

Leah looks away, shrugs and then says “ok.”

What should Jakob do?

Callum (16) and Kit (17) meet at the house party of a mutual friend. They spend the evening chatting on the sofa. At the end of the night, Kit grabs Callum’s hand and leads him to a bedroom upstairs.

As they kiss and start to undress one another, Callum asks Kit if they want to have sex. Kit shakes their head and says that although they’ve done it before, they “don’t enjoy anal.”

What should Callum do?

Callum says, “that’s ok” and asks Kit if they’d like to try something else instead. Kit smiles, strokes Callum’s thigh and asks, “do you want a blowjob?” Callum nods and moves Kit’s hand towards his penis. 

What should Kit do?

Priya (15) and Elliot (14) met on an online gaming site last year and, after swapping phone numbers, have been messaging each other ever since.

After arranging to meet in person for the first time, Elliot asks Priya to send him a nude. She replies with a photo of herself in her bra. Elliot says he’s “so turned on” and asks for one without her bra.

Priya doesn’t reply. Elliot feels angry and upset but wonders if she’s waiting for him to send one first. Elliot takes a photo of his penis.

What should Elliot do?

Priya receives the photo of Elliot’s penis. She’s shocked, deletes it and doesn’t reply.

The next day, Priya receives a threatening message from Elliot saying he’ll post the photo of her in her bra to the online gaming chatroom if she doesn’t send one of her breasts because she “owes him.”.

Priya feels worried and wonders if she should send Elliot the picture he wants if it means he won’t post the other one.

What should Priya do?

Mia (16) and Rhys (17) have been having casual sex for a few months and enjoy trying new things. Rhys (who’s bi) says he’d like to try a threesome. Mia is keen and asks her friend-of-a-friend, James (16), if he wants to have sex with her and Rhys.

James says, “yes,” so Mia invites them both over to hers. After a few awkward moments, Mia, Rhys and James talk about their individual sexual boundaries.

Mia says she wants Rhys and James to wear condoms. James says he’s ok to give but not receive oral sex. James says he doesn’t want to have penetrative sex but is happy to watch Mia and Rhys.

They all agree on a safe word to use if any of them want to stop.

What should Mia, Rhys and James do?

Isla (16) and Jade (17) have been dating for a year. They alternate spending the weekend around each other’s houses and have had lots of great, enthusiastic and consensual sex.

Tonight, when they’re about to go to bed, Jade kisses Isla and says “goodnight.” Isla kisses Jade back and starts sexually touching her.

After a few minutes, Jade pulls away and asks, “can’t we just cuddle?”

What should Isla do?

Instead, Isla reaches down between Jade’s legs and feels that her vagina is wet. She continues sexually touching Jade and thinks she hears her say “no.”

Isla carries on and feels Jade’s body tense. She thinks Jade might be be aroused and close to having an orgasm.   

What should Isla do?